Half of autistic adults 'abused by someone they trusted as a friend'

Survey by the National Autistic Society reveals 'cruelty and unkindness' towards people with autism

The Guardian, The Observer, Tracy McVeigh, Saturday 14 June 2014

Adrian Palmer's autism meant he endured a difficult time at school, and
was taken advantage of when he made the transition to adulthood.

Before her grandson's condition became clear, Margaret Palmer generally thought the best of people. Now she has a very different view.

"The cruelty, the unkindness, the lack of understanding towards people with autism is horrifying. Not just police and social services, but people, the public," she said. "Adrian was lovely, a fantastic lad and so special to us. It's the way other people treated him that was the problem."

A new survey carried out by the National Autistic Society (NAS) and to be published this week to mark the launch on Monday of its new campaign, Careless, shows just how hard life can be for adults with the disability. A startling 44% of those questioned admitted they stayed indoors as much as possible for fear of being harassed. Almost a third reported having had money or possessions stolen, while 37% had been forced or manipulated into doing something they didn't want to do by someone they thought of as a friend. Almost half (49%) of the 1,300 people surveyed reported having been abused by someone they thought of as a friend.

A consultation is under way on the government's new criteria for eligibility for adults to access social care, and the NAS is deeply concerned that even as numbers of people being diagnosed with autism disorders rise, the legislation will see levels of support and care drop.

"It's already incredibly patchy," said Tom Madders, NAS campaign manager. "Only half of local authorities even offer a pathway to diagnosis. We're starting to pick up kids who have autism a little better but for adults services are too few and far between. We hear a lot about harassment and isolation, about people being arrested when they haven't committed a crime, but these survey results, the abuse and the neglect, still shocked us," he said.

"People with autism can find it difficult to interpret others' motivations, misjudge relationships, and left unsupported many are taken advantage of. Our key concern is that government plans for the care system could make this desperate situation even worse. The new criteria take away entitlement of support for people if 'abuse has occurred or will occur', but that is an essential criteria for vulnerable people with autism."

Adrian Palmer was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome at 14 and assessed for support by social services at 18. His family knew he was at risk from the people he was spending time with and needed help with the transition to adulthood. But although the assessment found Adrian struggled with interpreting people's motives and was easily led, the risks were not sufficient for him to receive support.

At 21, he reported being raped by a man who had befriended him. His parents appealed again to the police and social services and finally a small amount of evening support was approved. Five days later in May 2006 Adrian was killed by the man he had accused of rape. Under the government's proposed criteria, Adrian would not have been eligible for support. West Mercia police were later found to have failed him by not properly investigating his complaints and social services apologised to his family.

His killer, Ben Murphy, 23, was sentenced to four years in prison for manslaughter and served two.

"It's horrible to think what just a little bit of support might have done, it might have changed everything," said Margaret Palmer. "You try your best but you need some support sometimes, not every family does but some do. We did. But the police do nothing, the social services do nothing.

"Adrian's was a long, long story. He went through so much from when he was young, all through school people were horrible to him, teachers and pupils. It was awful to take him to school, his little heart pumping, so anxious. It would upset us terribly that no one would listen or try to understand that if you just treated him right he would blossom," she added.

"When he was 18 he started to drink. We tried to say it's not the way to be sociable, to make friends, but social services just said he'll learn by his own mistakes. They advised us to make him homeless if we couldn't cope. I was shocked. People he was mixing with were horrible, but he couldn't see he was being manipulated."

Another sufferer, Rose, 54, was diagnosed with autism 18 months ago. Her condition only became obvious when her husband left five years ago, forcing her to fend for herself. Her daughter, now 21, was diagnosed aged 19 and her son when he was nine. "It makes you very prone to depression," she said. "All of us are now on medication. It makes you feel worthless when you know you don't fit in. You feel like you're out on a limb." She has been targeted by people who have stolen from her and sexually abused her.

"It's hard when you don't know someone's agenda. You just want to make friends but you feel out of your depth. I have battled hard to get any help at all. With my experiences over the last few years I have grown to mistrust people totally. It doesn't seem there are many decent people left."

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Human Evolution –  27 Sep 2008 (a message from Kryon channeled by Lee Carroll)

“.. What do you think the Human brain can really do? What do you think it's built to do? Let me give you an example of what your society has come to accept as an "unbalanced person." Some of you think it's a "sick person." Let me talk about the autistic one. Let us talk about autism in what you call the most severe case.

Blessed is the autistic one who has come to this earth to show you what future Human evolvement looks like! They spend a lifetime trying to figure out linearity and it frustrates them. Blessed is the savant who the earth looks at and calls unbalanced. For the Humans who do this cannot see what they don't understand. The autistic one is able to get up off the paper and be in color! Many of the autistic ones can do what your calculators can do on your desks, did you know that? And they don't need a calculator! Give them a problem - two digits multiplied by three digits. Now watch how fast they give you the answer. Because they're not linear! Ask them what weekday the 13th of August will be in 2012, and they'll tell you, and they don't need a calendar. You might say, "What kind of a mind can do that?" I'll tell you - a nonlinear one without the walls in the brain that you have.

Have you ever thought about that? The autistic have a nonlinear mind. The barriers are dropped. Can you imagine the frustration of this Human? Here he is in a world of black and white while he is in color. Not only that, you want him to go in a straight line when he is used to all directions at once. This also explains why the only energies that will work to calm him are interdimensional ones - music, art, and love. Does this start to make sense to you? (see below)

What is taking place, dear ones, for all to know and see and understand, is that very, very slowly you have the linearity of the Human brain starting to be reduced. Unlike the autistic, it will be in ways that will still be balanced and make sense. In other words, you will be able to move in and out of quantum thought any time you wish in order to live in a linear, 3D existence, but have quantum consciousness. It will be a return to a form of consciousness that Lemurians had, but with the wisdom of the ages that you have collected. This will not be fast, but the forerunners of that are already here.

I'm going to give you some attributes of Human evolution in a moment, but let's return to the autistic ones. Many reading this are very concerned about autism. You wish to know why there are so many autistics being born. You say it's beyond coincidence that there are suddenly so many! There's more autistic children being born today than there ever have been on this planet. Humans are scurrying around wanting to know what's wrong. Is it the chemistry of the food? Perhaps it must be vaccinations! Some are saying, without any proof, "Yes, that's it - vaccinations must be it." You are grasping at almost anything to solve the puzzle of why so many autistics are arriving.

Yet very few Humans, if any, have looked at the puzzle and said, "Perhaps we're evolving, and this is the first wave of what we're going to see?" Not mentally unbalanced, but nonlinear thinking! This is, indeed, the case. You are seeing a form of evolution and you are calling it odd and unusual. It's simply those who are coming in early with activated quantum DNA. This early forerunner has DNA activated in an uncontrolled way, and so learning is needed to know how to make sense of it all. This is what they are doing, and each generation of savant will have a better time of it, figuring out what is linear and what is not.

Watch the autistic child go through what they must do (autism in its most severe form). They are so nonlinear that there is incredible frustration in trying to linearize even the Human voice as you speak to them. They will do the same actions over and over and over, trying to linearize the nonlinear. The linear walls are gone in their brain, and they have to learn to build the ones that they need. Humans then see them as a problem, and it's not a problem. It's a form of gifted children who are helping this planet to grow. Blessed are those who come into Earth as the new wave of consciousness to show you where it's going. They are setting the stage for a new kind of Human. For this quantumness will develop in a balanced way where many will have the autistic talents where they want them, and the linear when they want that. That's what the Human mind is capable of - being quantum when they wish to be. That's a return to the way it was given to you.

Let me tell you something that's nonlinear in your life. We have said this so seldom. You're given two quantum things as a Human Being, two things that pass between the other side of the veil and this side of the veil that are absolutely quantum, not linear. They have structure, but they are not linear. Perhaps you haven't even thought about them? I'll tell you what they are - art and music. There is no limit to the number of notes that you can hear at the same time, which your brain can listen to and put together. There's no limit to the number of symphony orchestra players that can come together in harmony on one stage. The more you add, the better it gets! Try that with lecturers [smile]. Did you ever think about that? There's no limit to the number of colors that you can comprehend and resolve in certain patterns. They are beautiful and have communications within them all. Music touches your heart. Now you know why. It's interdimensional. It's quantum. It was designed to do that. Now, apply that same scenario to communication and you'll see where you're going. This is Human evolvement. It's beginning on this planet. It will go slow, but that's what's going on. ...‘’

"Soul Communication" - Feb 22-23, 2014 (Kryon Channelling by Lee Carroll) - (Text version Part 1, Text version Part 2)

"... There's an attribute of a nonlinear mind that you call autism that you should study. There are many autistic Human Beings who can tell you the day of the week for any year within any month. If you were to ask that person, "What is the day of the week for the 15th of the month in May of 2035?", many would know the day instantly. Most Humans would gasp at what appears to be their computational efforts. But the truth is that computation has nothing to do with it. You see, it's not a formula, and it's not math. The answer already exists, so it is known. You can go to almost any personal computer that is calendar friendly and find that information, because it already exists. It's a concept that has already been developed, produced, and stored.

The nonlinear mind works this way. Many with the autistic mind are able to interpret this information almost instantly, because they see the concept. They're not calculating anything. Now you know the difference between linear and nonlinear. The autistic mind is the forerunner of things to come and an anomaly of future Human development. These are the savants of the day, and many of their difficulties stem from their inability to work in a linear world. ..."